Essential Question Do different audiences influence a person’s decision to ask certain types of questions? Lesson Plan Using the directions from the game “Scruples,” make up your own questions on index cards from which students can draw randomly and answer. Examples could include the following: * * * * *
My favorite relative is… If I could play an instrument, it would be… If I could choose my next birthday present, it would be… The illness I’d like to find a cure for is… The most beautiful place in the world is…
Student Materials/Resources None Required Teacher Materials/Resources The game “Scruples” (if available) / Rules & Secrets of Success for the “Ungame” along with Topic Cards (included on following pages). Lesson Extensions/Assessments Students may write a journal entry explaining which questions were the most difficult to answer in front of their peers and why.
* Teacher Tip – An additional adaptation of the game might include students developing questions for elementary and middle school-aged students. To save time, you may wish to use either “Spill the Beans” or “Video Games” rather than doing both.
RULES & Secrets of Success
HOW THE UNGAME WAS BORN Rhea Zakich through she would never speak again following throat surgery. The California homemaker and mother of two was ordered by her doctor not to talk for several months. The fear of NEVER regaining her voice was a terrifying thought to Rhea who was involved in many volunteer projects such as teaching Sunday School, being a den mother, singing in a church choir, donating endless hours to PTA and school activities, and coaching her sons in music lessons, sports activities and homework assessments. The experience at first traumatic, became a challenge. She was forced to devise her own ways to communicate and found herself forced to listen to others. It was this dramatic experience that led to the development of a unique communication game – the UNGAME. Not being able to talk gives one plenty of time and become more aware and to think. I began to realize that as a family we had not shared our feelings on many subjects. I had not instilled in my children the things that were important to me. The more Rhea watched and listened to others the more she realized that people – whether parents, children, husbands, or organization members – weren’t listening to what was being said to them. From her frustration at her inability to communicate verbally came the concept for the game. “I wrote down every question I wished people would ask me and all the questions I wanted to ask them and couldn’t.” These questions later became an integral part of her new communication concept. The first time her family sat down to play the new creation, “We learned more about each other in 20 minutes than we had in 12 years,” Rhea said. She was able to express her feelings by writing them on paper and much to her surprise, no one walked away from her during the games as people did at other times. Next, she shared the game with some friends who begged her to make a copy for them because their families had gotten out of the habit of talking to each other also. After making several hundred handmade Ungames and seeing the remarkable things that happened when family and friends opened up new channels of communication with one another, Rhea decided to find a way to get the Ungame mass-produced commercially. The rest is history. Rhea Zakich regained the use of her voice after she discovered a more effective way to communicate, and the Ungame has become the most popular communication game. HOW 1. 2. 3. 4. 5.
Determine the length of playing time. For optimum results, 45 minutes to an hour is suggested. Players are encouraged to sit CLOSE together. The UNGAME works best with 2-8 people of ANY AGE. Players agree to REMAIN SILENT except on their turns. Select the deck of cards to be used. Deck 1 contains lighthearted topics and should be used first. Deck 2 contains more serious topics and works best AFTER a group has practiced SHARING, LISTENING, and INTERACTING with Deck 1. Play begins when someone draws a card from the deck. If a TOPIC card is drawn, player should read it aloud and respond in 2 or 3 sentences. NO OTHER PLAYER CAN COMMENT AT THIS TIME! If a QUESTION-COMMENT card is drawn, a player may: A. Ask ONE question of another player which may be answered at this time, OR B. Make a comment on any subject. Person to the left draws a card and game continues until time is up. Extra time may be desired at the conclusion for open sharing.
Encourages people to spend QUALITY TIME with each other. Improves LISTENING as attention is focused on each player. Promotes FAIRNESS so that even the shy has a chance to speak. Gives permission to EXPRESS feelings, ideas, and beliefs. Creates a SAFE PLACE for honesty because players refrain from interrupting. Elicits SELF- TALK rather than attacking or accusing others. Enhances SELF-DISCOVERY and raises SELF-ESTEEM. Fosters UNDERSTANDING and ACCEPTANCE of others. Introduces more than 140 TOPICS unlikely to come up in ordinary conversation. Discourages CRITICISM, SARCASM, and JUDGMENTS that often thwart good communication. Eliminates COMPETITION so everyone feels like a WINNER. WHO
FAMILIES – Brings members closer together by promoting open, honest communication. PARTIES – Encourages participation, giving the shy, quiet person equal time with the extrovert. CLASSROOMS – Elicits favorable responses from kindergarten to college age as they share openly. CHURCH GROUPS – Invites people to share their faith, beliefs and needs in an atmosphere of love. COUNSELING SESSIONS – Helps to gain information about behavior and attitudes. COMMITTEES – Involves sharing opinions and suggestions to assist in accomplishing goals. YOUTH GROUPS – Develops empathy and understanding among those from different backgrounds. INTER-GENERATIONAL GROUPS – Bridges communication gap that often occurs between young people and old. SINGLE’S GROUPS – Provides an excellent way to go beyond superficial chit-chat to important issues. FOR MORE INFORMATION ON THE UNGAME VISIT THE OFFICIAL UNGAME WEBSITE AT: WWW.UNGAME.COM
- TOPIC How do you feel when a TV program is interrupted by a special news bulletin?
- TOPIC Describe the kind of car you would like to own.
- TOPIC Describe the funeral service you would like held for you.
- TOPIC Talk about the importance of a religious faith in your life.
- TOPIC Tell about a time when you felt awkward.
- TOPIC Talk about responsibility.
- TOPIC How do you feel about guns?
- TOPIC Talk about newspapers and how they affect your life.
- TOPIC Tell about a mistake you have made recently.
- TOPIC Talk about a recent news story that has captured your interest.
- TOPIC How do you feel about sharing personal problems?
- TOPIC Tell about a depressing time in your life.
- TOPIC Say something about suicide.
- TOPIC When do you feel most peaceful?
- TOPIC How do you feel about donating parts of your body at the time of your death?
- TOPIC Share your feelings about changing jobs.
- TOPIC What seems to be the biggest problem in your life right now?
- TOPIC What roles do love and affection play in your life?
- TOPIC Complete the sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share …”
- TOPIC Describe divorce in three words.
- TOPIC Talk bout something beautiful you saw this week.
- TOPIC When do you feel most confident?
- TOPIC Tell about a time when you felt successful.
- TOPIC What disturbs you about the people with whom you live?
- TOPIC Tell about a movie you have seen recently?
- TOPIC Share a childhood experience of embarrassment.
- TOPIC Say something about resentment.
- TOPIC Complete the sentence: “I wish all people would …”
- TOPIC Complete the sentence about honesty: “I have discovered that I …”
- TOPIC Share your feelings about financial security.
- TOPIC Share a compliment you received recently.
- TOPIC Say something about illness and how it has affected your life.
- TOPIC Complete the sentence: “I hope …”
- TOPIC How do you decide between right and wrong?
- TOPIC Say something about poverty.
- TOPIC Talk about a joyful time in your life.
- TOPIC What musical instrument would you use to describe yourself? Why?
- TOPIC Share a childhood experience with death.
- TOPIC Talk about your favorite sport and why you like it.
- TOPIC Tell about an understanding person in your life.
- TOPIC Tell about the most significant person in your life.
- TOPIC In what ways does TV influence your life?
- TOPIC If you could watch only one hour of TV this week, what would you watch?
- TOPIC How do you want to spend the last year of your life?
- TOPIC If there were six more hours in the day, how would you spend them?
- TOPIC How does TV advertising affect your buying habits?
- TOPIC Say something about apologizing.
- TOPIC If you could have a committee of three people (living or dead) to help you make decisions, whom would you choose?
- TOPIC Describe the “greatest” dessert in the world.
- TOPIC How do you think your mother would describe you?
- TOPIC Talk about a happy experience.
- TOPIC Describe your best year in school.
- TOPIC What are three things you would like to be doing in three years?
- TOPIC Complete the sentence: “I am the kind of person who …”
- TOPIC What color would you use to describe yourself? Why?
- TOPIC Complete the sentence: “My favorite time of days is …”
- TOPIC Talk about bragging.
- TOPIC Make a statement about honesty.
- TOPIC Talk about your favorite childhood game.
- TOPIC Describe something you like to do that seems out of the ordinary.
- TOPIC Tell about a family tradition that you enjoy.
- TOPIC Complete the sentence: “When I am in a large group, I …”
- TOPIC Give your definition of the “perfect party.”
- TOPIC What would you like to receive on your next birthday?
- TOPIC Talk about a time when you were locked out of the house.
- TOPIC If you could spend one whole day with your best friend, what would you like to do?
- TOPIC Describe the kind of house you would most like to own.
- TOPIC Describe the most unpleasant job you have ever had to do.
- TOPIC Tell about a time when you were lost.
- TOPIC Talk about the last time you lost your temper.
- TOPIC Tell about a secret desire that you have.
- TOPIC Complete the sentence: “My favorite kind of music is …”
- TOPIC Talk about your eating habits.
- TOPIC What kind of emergency scares you the most?
- TOPIC Share a family ritual that has special meaning to you.
- TOPIC What would you like to achieve with your life?
- TOPIC What is one thing you could do to improve your life?
- TOPIC What are your reasons for wanting to go on living?
- TOPIC Complete the sentence: “The loneliest time for me is …”
- TOPIC Say something about gambling.
- TOPIC Say something about alcoholic beverages.
- TOPIC Tell about the last time you were late for something.
- TOPIC What would be the most difficult news for you to accept about someone in your family?
- TOPIC What have you done in the past three months that makes you proud?
- TOPIC Which of your senses do you value most?
- TOPIC Describe your childhood in three words.
“Spill the Beans” is the SCCTR version of the “Ungame” which is no longer available. Cut the question cards apart, then follow the attached directions for “Ungame” which is one of the activities from Unit 1, Section 1 of the Teacher Cadet curriculum.